politics Coming Out as a Political Act While coming out can be terrifying and even dangerous, it’s really important that we acknowledge it’s also an incredibly important and powerful political act. A political act that is just as crucial today as it was for our queer and trans ancestors.
allyship Black Lives Matter The news this past few weeks has been filled with police violence and violence perpetrated by white people against Black folks. It is not new by any means, but part
personal Things I began learning in the last 10 years Learning to be kind and gentle with myself has been only one of the many things I began learning in the last 10 years.
allyship 5 Ways to Make Your Organization More Welcoming to Non-Binary People Here are 5 tips to help support non-binary people in your workplace, based on my own experience.
allyship How cis people can respond after the anti-trans memo Not sure how you, a cis person, should be responding to the administration’s attacks on transgender folks this week? Here are some tips.
gender National Coming Out Day (2018) Two years ago I used today to publicly come out as queer, and one year ago I came out as trans & non-binary. And this year I’m here to tell you a not so secret fact: coming out never ends.
gender Misogyny As a Weapon of War I’m not a woman, but I have experienced a lot of what women have experienced, and so especially today, I share their rage and pain.
allyship Making Transgender / Genderqueer / Non-binary Inclusion a Priority — A Toolkit for Conference Organizers These recommendations may change in the future, and while I have sought out advice from other trans / genderqueer / non-binary folks, please know that this is largely from my own experience and observations.
allyship One easy way to use your privilege to demand more from companies on D&I If every person they reach out to recruit demands disability-inclusive culture, gender neutral bathrooms, and equal parental leave, these companies might start to get the message that these things matter and they need to prioritize them.
allyship Making trans inclusion at conferences a priority Do you want to be an ally to trans folks? Here's a place you can start: start demanding more of the spaces you inhabit, and particularly, demand more of the conferences you attend. Stop relying on trans folks to step in and do all of the work.
allyship Language Matters One way we can help make companies, teams, and projects more inclusive is through our everyday language.
gender Coming Out a Second Time I've written so many versions of this post. Short and long, happy and angry, personal and impersonal. I'm still not sure where to start when talking about this, honestly.
technology Lessons From a Website Migration I'd been meaning to move my website to a new host for awhile, away from a Dreamhost VPS to a fully controlled VM of my own...
security Digital Security 101 Post-election, there has been an explosion in the discussion around the increasingly urgent need for people to secure their digital lives.
politics The Day After the 2016 Election I’m in shock. And I'm feeling devastated. But I'm also super fucking pissed off right now. And I want to use that to try to fix this trashfire.
queer Coming Out Queer I've always kind of questioned my identity, but never felt comfortable actually identifying as anything other than heterosexual -- despite my parallel discomfort with actually identifying as heterosexual.
society An Experiment in Being Present I'm using my 30th birthday to experiment with my life, starting with deleting my Facebook.